Ngaro Raihe Hape

Ngāti Kahungunu, Ngāti Pikiao, Ngāti Whakaue, Ngāti Awa, Te Arawa, Te Aupōuri

Ngaro's Story

Accepting support from whānau helped Ngaro after his marriage left him grieving the loss of his kids and home. After getting through his depression with support from friends and his psychologist, he learned how to help others.

My story started after my marriage break-up of 23 years and trying to cope with that, the loss

Everything that was normal wasn’t anymore, even simple stuff like a routine of going to work and going home.

All sorts of things affect your mental health


I noticed I was a lot slower and wasn’t as engaged with other people

I was keeping to myself. I said, “I’m a Hape, the name Hape are known for their work ethic”. So I hid in my job, I would work long hours to just escape what was going on in my head.

Depression or anxiety is different for everyone


I learnt a lot of strategies from my psychologist

I met up with a psychologist there and then and he told me, “Don’t go back to work, you need to look after you”. What I liked is they explained it how I could understand.  I made a choice of “It has got to work.” There was hope and I had people back behind me.

There are things that can help you get through


I am proud of the work I do in helping others

I have got a loving partner who is beside me all the time. I am proud of the organisation that gave me help, strategies, love, all that and a job; because within that comes life. 

There are changes you can make to stay well


The power of kōrero – what a change it can make in someone’s life, from a darkness to a tomorrow

Other people's stories

I started training

Karakia gave me peace

I learnt new strategies