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Home life

Our home plays an important role in our mental health.

A stable home life nurtures a secure environment, which can positively influence our mental wellbeing.

Family under the stars

The support from our whānau helps us through challenging times and with managing life's stresses. Whānau can have a positive influence and nurture our wairua. Whānau includes everyone we hold dear. Unexpected changes at home can be uncomfortable. If you're struggling with challenges at home, remember it's okay to seek help. Everyone deserves a safe home environment.

Relationships at home

Our homes are where we connect with our whānau or flatmates. Whānau extends beyond blood relations. It includes everyone we hold dear. Emotional support from loved ones is essential for mental wellbeing. If you're feeling disconnected, remember we're here to help.

Living closely with others can be challenging at times. It's normal to sometimes feel unheard or overwhelmed.

Here are some strategies to navigate conflicts:

  • Share your feelings and changes you might want.
  • Listen closely and try to find common ground.
  • Create a plan together for a way forward.

Having hard conversations with people that we care about can be difficult. These conversations, while challenging, can strengthen your relationships and build trust in your home. 

If arguments are happening more frequently and you are concerned for your safety, services like Women’s Refuge are available to help.

For more information on relationships, visit our relationships page.

Leaving home

Leaving home can be both exciting and challenging. These feelings are common, and you don’t have to face them alone, there are people who care about you and want to support you.

If you don’t have anywhere to stay right now, Work and Income can help place you in emergency housing

"Most of my issues started at university. I started to focus more on academic marks. That got to the point where I was studying 12 to 14 hours a day, not really sleeping."

To speak to a trained counsellor, call or text 1737, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

If you have been experiencing violence at home Women's Refuge can provide safe and secure housing

Staying at home or returning home

There are many reasons you might return home after time away. Whether it's due to money, family or personal choices, returning home is not a setback. It's important to communicate with your family about responsibilities and boundaries. You might feel confused about your role in the household or that you’ve lost a sense of freedom. These feelings are common and it's okay to feel unsettled.

You could talk to your family about these things:

  • What jobs around the house should I take on?
  • How much should I contribute to rent, the mortgage or bills?
  • How about groceries and meals?

If you're caregiving, prioritise your wellbeing too. Taking care of someone can be emotionally and physically demanding, especially if they are very unwell. Remember that homecomings can be a source of joy and rejuvenation too.

Reflections on success and life choices

Success and self-worth are deeply personal. It can be hard to ignore what others think or society's expectations, but building self-esteem outside of these is important.

Life's journey is filled with twists and turns. It's okay to change when needed, including changing where you live.

Relationships evolve, aspirations change and challenges arise. Remember that there is support to get through difficult times and move towards to the life you want and that you're not alone. Our people who can help page has more information.

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