It's natural to feel a mix of emotions when thinking about substance use. You may feel anger, loneliness, guilt or even jealousy that other people don’t seem to think much about their alcohol and drug use.
“As my mood darkened, my need to find some kind of way to find some light in my world expanded. So it became this survival technique to find whatever I could to make myself feel better. And so at 15, for me that was drugs and alcohol and a sense of belonging.” – Watch Hannah’s story
You might be thinking about your alcohol or drug use for many reasons. It might not make you feel good. Someone may have mentioned it to you, maybe you’ve done something to you're not comfortable with or you might be comparing your intake to the recommended limits.
Start by asking yourself these things:
- Do I want to see any changes in my substance use?
- Am I open to seeking help?
- Would I prefer a familiar face or an anonymous conversation?
- What kind of support aligns with my cultural or personal beliefs?
Everybody’s journey with substances is different. The answers to these questions might change over time. This can be a lot to think about. Take the time that you need.
If you're considering changing your use or stopping altogether, planning non-substance related activities can be helpful. Whatever you choose, looking for activities that bring you peace and connection can help to take your mind off things.
Starting a conversation or asking for support can be daunting but can be really helpful. People who can help and asking for help will help you identify what support different people can provide and ways to start a conversation.
Listen to their story here
I just didn't want to admit that I had a problem eh. Yeah, and I didn’t want to admit that, you know that, that is completely out of my hands. And that, you know, I've got all these issues and but I was absolutely in denial. And so I think by recognising that, it opened the door for me to start healing.
There’s lots of reasons why someone might have decided to speak to you about alcohol or drugs. People often try to have these conversations if they’re worried or want to make sure you’re okay. No matter their intentions, these conversations can be hard. You might be feeling angry, embarrassed, shocked – or possibly supported or loved.
Things to remember:
- You have the right to process this at your own pace.
- You decide the next steps – whether it's seeking help or making changes.
- Support is available – the choice to reach out is yours.
If you do want to talk, you only need to share what you’re comfortable with. You can ask for support in any way that feels right for you.
What this might look like:
- Finding a support service to call.
- Going to an appointment together.
- Doing drug and alcohol-free activities together.
- Finding ways to reduce risks like attending drug checking services.
Talking to someone about their substance use can be challenging. It's important to approach the conversation with empathy and understanding, respecting their freedom to make their own decisions.
Seeing a loved one struggle can be heart-wrenching. While the desire to help is natural, it's crucial to approach the situation with sensitivity and respect for their autonomy.
Things to remember:
- Your role is supportive, not directive.
- Don’t make assumptions – every individual's experience is unique.
- Prioritise safer use of alcohol and drugs – check out The Level for more information.
- Encourage open communication.
- Give them time and space to make their own decisions.
- Understand that change does not occur overnight and that recovery can be a complex journey.